There are lots of things that students don’t know before they go to university, and even more things that their parents might not know. If you are a parent of a student going to University, there may be things your child would want you to understand before they take the plunge. I spoke to various students and graduates about what they wish their parents knew before they went to university, this is what they said:
1. Unexpected costs
Students often don’t receive their student finance until the first day of their course. This can mean many costs throughout welcome week and even before the student has started University can come as a surprise.
“I found out that I had to pay my deposit for my accommodation on results day, long before any student finance came in. Luckily my parents could help out and lend me the money!”
2. The learning process is different to school
Many parents want to be as involved in their child’s university education as they were in school education. This kind of support can be hugely beneficial to the student, however, there are many differences in how your children will learn. Students will have a variety seminars, lectures and workshops, at a variety of times.
“When I studied from home, I sometimes didn’t start work until 5pm. My parents thought I wasn’t doing anything, but I was”
3. Job offers don’t automatically come straight after graduation
Getting a job doesn’t happen overnight, and it may take a little longer than you’d expect for your child to start their career after finishing university. For some people it may be easier than others, and while their friends may be getting jobs, it might be easy for you to compare. It is important to be supportive during this time, rather than adding any more pressure.
4. Moving out for university might not be permanent
Some parents might be excited to convert their child’s old room into an office space or gym, but moving out for university doesn’t mean your child is gone for good. They will likely be coming back over holidays and might even move back home after they have finished their course.
“I moved back home three times throughout university before finally moving out for good a few months after graduating. Luckily my parents were super supportive so I could go back to them in times of need.”
5. Everything will be okay
Lots of parents worry about their children moving away and struggling with their new found independence, but a major part of growing up is being allowed room to learn how to deal with these things.
“My mum kept worrying about me, but even though there may be things I struggle with, I need to learn to be independent.”
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